I'm asking in the kindest of ways, please stop telling me what I mean. I am NOT belittling anyone's experiences. All I'm saying it's not all for not.JulieYBM wrote: ↑Sat Nov 23, 2019 9:12 pmThis post is exactly what I just finished describing in the post you are quoting. Honey, this means nothing. You're trying to force modern experiences and past experiences into a competition just to belittle modern experiences. This is not a competition. This is a "Hey, shit sucked then and it still fucking sucks now" situation.ABED wrote: ↑Sat Nov 23, 2019 8:53 pmIt's not a useless platitude. It may not seem like things are getting better when you're in the thick of things, but it should serve as a reminder that the struggle is worth it. Maybe some mean it as a way to take the wind out of people's sails, but not everything is meant in bad faith.JulieYBM wrote: ↑Sat Nov 23, 2019 8:15 pm"Things are getting better over time!" Is a useless fucking platitude and cliche that means nothing to those of us still putting up with bullshit, which is...all of us. It is meant to take the wind out of our sails and tell us not to demand better immediately.
Signed, a queer woman who is emotionally abused by family constantly and can only be herself in public, where she runs the risk of being murdered while going into the Little Caesar's for a pep and Crazy Bread combo.
Do you think being transgender in the 50's would be preferable? Almost nothing ever occurs as fast as we want it, but people giving you encouragement, even clichés, should not be automatically disregarded as disingenuous.
Here's another cliché, but on that none the less holds true - almost nothing worth having in life comes easy.
And it should be noted that no one here knows what my experiences are, I simply don't put shit on front street.
Kunzait, I understand where you're coming from, but you make it sound like those are small things because in the concrete here and now it doesn't seem like much solace, but it is a big f'n deal.