How can i meet a woman who likes anime / cosplay / Dragon Ball?

[Kid Buu]

You know who I'd like to see try to find a lady? Yamcha. Poor bastard could use a W for once in his miserable life.

no seriously, y'all niggas is bored.

Uh excuse me Yamucha has his niche being Chichi's "the other man."

[Dragon Ball Ireland]

If you want to meet someone, you’d probably be better off using a dating website or something. There’s no reason to just walk up to someone you know nothing about with the intention/hope of starting a relationship. That’s weird. Doing it at a club or something would certainly be less awkward/potentially creepy than doing it a grocery store or what have you, but you’d still know nothing about that person.

The difference is, at a club being chatted up is almost to be expected, most other places like grocery stores, gyms, airports, etc aren't the kind of environments women are used to men approaching them with the intentions of wanting to date them, so it's more confusing, and often they just want to enjoy their day and don't want to have to think about relationships. Though, I don't think a lot of us would expect to find girls who like Dragon Ball at the club

I don't know much about dating apps, having been in a relationship since before they took off, but a lot of my single friends use them, and from what I've heard they're fine when it comes to meeting someone and being able to suss out their interests or hobbies beforehand.

In general though, I think it's better to find someone who loves you for you and accepts your interests or passions, rather than focus on them liking the same thing. If they like the same thing, great, but it's not a necessity.

[Soppa Saia People]

Just keep in mind that the love for Dragon Ball and cosplay isn't enough for a healthy and productive relationship. Maybe you find someone who you're getting along with really well, but is not big on anime, but if you're both open-minded you can share interests. If you want my two cents, I wasn't big on Dragon Ball until my ex, many years ago, who sparked an interest in me to the point where I became even more passionate. In my actual relationship, I'm the "sparkerer". People change.

yeah, trying to find a relationship with someone who shares the same interests as you isn't the most healthy thing to do, obviously you want to share some common interests whether it be media, hobbies, and that type of thing, but it shouldn't define your relationship i guess ?

[DBZAOTA482]

If you want to meet someone, you’d probably be better off using a dating website or something. There’s no reason to just walk up to someone you know nothing about with the intention/hope of starting a relationship. That’s weird. Doing it at a club or something would certainly be less awkward/potentially creepy than doing it a grocery store or what have you, but you’d still know nothing about that person.

The difference is, at a club being chatted up is almost to be expected, most other places like grocery stores, gyms, airports, etc aren't the kind of environments women are used to men approaching them with the intentions of wanting to date them, so it's more confusing, and often they just want to enjoy their day and don't want to have to think about relationships. Though, I don't think a lot of us would expect to find girls who like Dragon Ball at the club

I don't know much about dating apps, having been in a relationship since before they took off, but a lot of my single friends use them, and from what I've heard they're fine when it comes to meeting someone and being able to suss out their interests or hobbies beforehand.

In general though, I think it's better to find someone who loves you for you and accepts your interests or passions, rather than focus on them liking the same thing. If they like the same thing, great, but it's not a necessity.

If you randomly bring up Dragon Ball in the club, girls will think you're a nerd. Clubs are more for hooking up and not for anything serious.

[MasenkoHA]

If you want to meet someone, you’d probably be better off using a dating website or something. There’s no reason to just walk up to someone you know nothing about with the intention/hope of starting a relationship. That’s weird. Doing it at a club or something would certainly be less awkward/potentially creepy than doing it a grocery store or what have you, but you’d still know nothing about that person.

The difference is, at a club being chatted up is almost to be expected, most other places like grocery stores, gyms, airports, etc aren't the kind of environments women are used to men approaching them with the intentions of wanting to date them, so it's more confusing, and often they just want to enjoy their day and don't want to have to think about relationships. Though, I don't think a lot of us would expect to find girls who like Dragon Ball at the club

I don't know much about dating apps, having been in a relationship since before they took off, but a lot of my single friends use them, and from what I've heard they're fine when it comes to meeting someone and being able to suss out their interests or hobbies beforehand.

In general though, I think it's better to find someone who loves you for you and accepts your interests or passions, rather than focus on them liking the same thing. If they like the same thing, great, but it's not a necessity.

If you randomly bring up Dragon Ball in the club, girls will think you're a nerd. Clubs are more for hooking up and not for anything serious.

I…..I don’t think that was Ireland’s point?!?

[JulieYBM]

If you want to meet someone, you’d probably be better off using a dating website or something. There’s no reason to just walk up to someone you know nothing about with the intention/hope of starting a relationship. That’s weird. Doing it at a club or something would certainly be less awkward/potentially creepy than doing it a grocery store or what have you, but you’d still know nothing about that person.

The difference is, at a club being chatted up is almost to be expected, most other places like grocery stores, gyms, airports, etc aren't the kind of environments women are used to men approaching them with the intentions of wanting to date them, so it's more confusing, and often they just want to enjoy their day and don't want to have to think about relationships. Though, I don't think a lot of us would expect to find girls who like Dragon Ball at the club

I don't know much about dating apps, having been in a relationship since before they took off, but a lot of my single friends use them, and from what I've heard they're fine when it comes to meeting someone and being able to suss out their interests or hobbies beforehand.

In general though, I think it's better to find someone who loves you for you and accepts your interests or passions, rather than focus on them liking the same thing. If they like the same thing, great, but it's not a necessity.

If you randomly bring up Dragon Ball in the club, girls will think you're a nerd. Clubs are more for hooking up and not for anything serious.

So wait, you're saying women are shallow and only fuck non-nerds? Because one's nerdiness makes them unacceptable for casual sex?

Even putting aside the weird portrait you're trying to paint of women, who the fuck would want to fuck someone who turned you down for being a fucking nerd? How is that not a tremendous turn off?

[jjgp1112]

The difference is, at a club being chatted up is almost to be expected, most other places like grocery stores, gyms, airports, etc aren't the kind of environments women are used to men approaching them with the intentions of wanting to date them, so it's more confusing, and often they just want to enjoy their day and don't want to have to think about relationships. Though, I don't think a lot of us would expect to find girls who like Dragon Ball at the club

I don't know much about dating apps, having been in a relationship since before they took off, but a lot of my single friends use them, and from what I've heard they're fine when it comes to meeting someone and being able to suss out their interests or hobbies beforehand.

In general though, I think it's better to find someone who loves you for you and accepts your interests or passions, rather than focus on them liking the same thing. If they like the same thing, great, but it's not a necessity.

If you randomly bring up Dragon Ball in the club, girls will think you're a nerd. Clubs are more for hooking up and not for anything serious.

So wait, you're saying women are shallow and only fuck non-nerds? Because one's nerdiness makes them unacceptable for casual sex?

Even putting aside the weird portrait you're trying to paint of women, who the fuck would want to fuck someone who turned you down for being a fucking nerd? How is that not a tremendous turn off?

Women aren't shallow - people are shallow. Case in point, the whole second paragraph of your post - men wanting casual sex from a woman they'd ordinarily despise. When it comes to casual sex most people make that decision on the more shallow, immediate criteria. For instance, Bulma tried to proposition a guy five minutes after he bragged about slaughtering aliens and Krillin nearly screwed over the entire universe because a robot kissed him!

Having lived with five women in New York City for the past half year I can say that street harassment is definitely a problem - but what they say they hate is the disrespect as opposed to the interaction in and of itself. They like respectful compliments from someone they could see themselves with, especially since New York City folks are extremely cold and aloof and are only ever outwardly nice and complimentary when they're trying to scam you.

It's the difference between a Krillin and a Master Roshi, you see.

[fleahop]

Lol what is this thread. I'll try to help in the simplest way I can.

Do not put too many qualifiers on your love. Dragon ball or anime is really such a tiny thing compared to the bond between two people.

My wife doesn't care for anime or dragon ball or even visual media (yeah it's rough) but she loves my enjoyment of it. Look for someone like that. The anime enjoyment could be a cherry on top.

[Alruneia]

I swear I've read a thread just like this before... and you're the one who made that one too. I think this "make Kanzenshuu threads" approach might be the wrong way to go about it.
In general... I'm not gonna tell you what you should or shouldn't look for in a potential romantic partner, which is why I just gave some concrete pointers last time... but if you ask me, common interest in a media franchise is flimsy grounds to build a whole relationship on. It's much better to find someone you actually get along with than it is to find someone who just likes the same things as you. I guess I can mainly only talk about my own perspective, but I see tons of guys out there who like the same stuff I do but are still completely undateable to me because they're "weird" (the Norwegian word I'm trying to translate here is "sær", it doesn't have a proper English equivalent apparently) or they're arrogant or ill-tempered or obnoxious etc etc. Beyond checking that the two of you don't have dealbreaker interests in each other's eyes, focus on compatability and personality and let things like fondness of Dragon Ball (or, more realistically, anime in general) be lower priority.

Also, and this is gonna be a bit of a cultural thing since Norway has a generally more introverted culture than some other countries, but to the whole "find someone at the store and talk to them" idea... Do not do that. We don't live in an RPG where you can just walk up to strangers and press A to chat. You'll be seen as a weirdo or a creep almost every time.

[goku the krump dancer]

How do y'all think people met prior to the explosion of chat rooms, social media and dating apps?

[JulieYBM]

How do y'all think people met prior to the explosion of chat rooms, social media and dating apps?

How long do you think women have been pressured into relationships with men that they don't want to be in for fear of their safety or because society kept telling them they were worthless unless they got themselves a man?

Also: spaces for hook-ups existed before the internet.

[goku the krump dancer]

That's not answering my question but hell, even in arranged marriages the women can still choose to be with the guy they're being presented with or not. There's still the power of choice in the matter its just the families do the majority of the vetting instead of the son or daughter in question.

Also y'all keep mentioning Hook Ups when that's not what I spoke about or what the topic is about. If you talk to any regular person in real life they'll tell you that bars and nightclubs are the worst places to look for a potential significant other because most people who frequent those places are there for a good time not a long time.

[WittyUsername]

How do y'all think people met prior to the explosion of chat rooms, social media and dating apps?

Arranged marriages, high school romances, stuff like that I assume.

[kemuri07]

How do y'all think people met prior to the explosion of chat rooms, social media and dating apps?

bars and clubs? Again, no one is saying that you cant talk to people its just that if your main concern is to date, then there are better avenues to do so than following women in grocery stores.

If you talk to any regular person in real life they'll tell you that bars and nightclubs are the worst places to look for a potential significant other because most people who frequent those places are there for a good time not a long time.

gonna need a citation on that.

[Kid Buu]

If you talk to any regular person in real life they'll tell you that bars and nightclubs are the worst places to look for a potential significant other because most people who frequent those places are there for a good time not a long time.

gonna need a citation on that.

Can confirm from my own personal experiences.

[Dragon Ball Ireland]

I think what everyone needs to succeed in dating can be summed up with one word - confidence. That confidence can be built in any number of ways. As someone that used to go to the club frequently I can say that while I didn't meet potential dates or my now wife there they did help me become more confident when meeting people out and about, including people I found attractive, and that's what I would recommend anyone to go to them for. Also, if you go clubbing go with the intention of enjoying yourself, everything else will fall into place when you've built up courage.

The more confidence you have the less you worry about someone having similar interests because you are content with who you are and what you have to offer in a relationship. I'm not saying anyone should stop caring about a potential partner liking Dragon Ball, but it's important to accept it may or may not happen, and if it doesn't that's ok.

Plenty of couples have different interests but it still works for them. I would say great relationships should ideally have a healthy balance of shared and unique interests, because its good for two people to have been exposed to different things so they can learn from one another, as having all the same interests can be detrimental too (albeit not in all cases) by preventing both partners from becoming more open minded.

[Nagyzöld]

That's not answering my question but hell, even in arranged marriages the women can still choose to be with the guy they're being presented with or not.

In most cases no?

How do y'all think people met prior to the explosion of chat rooms, social media and dating apps?

From my experience - college, workplaces, friend groups etc. How do you think people met before dating apps?

[Hellspawn28]

Honestly, you find people easier when you are not looking for them. Chances are that you may bump into the right person at the right place and time. I never had much luck dating with women after only having two girlfriends in my life and one friends with benefits with a guy. Also,
the key to good conversation is a certain level of confidence. I know it's easier said than done, but if you're relaxed, you won't feel bad about yourself. Stepping out of your comfort zone can be difficult at first, but it will become second nature after a while.

I also recommend finding people who are not into the same hobbies as you. As long if she likes you for who you are, it won't be matter. Also, it does not hurt to introduce people to new things too. Just don't interoduce people to something too freaky (I learn my leason with that ages ago).

On another note I'm almost curious as to how some of you function day to day with all this fear jammed into your heads, YBM you almost speak as if every non-LGBTQ guy out there has some innate urge to hurt you, or people like you in particular and that just plain crazy.

Both Trans Men and Trans Woman have been victims of rape and murder because they are trans. I can see why Julie does feel worried about meeting up with CIS Straight Men. Brandon Teena is one of the most well known people that has been killed for being a trans male and has their story adapted into Boys Don't Cry (I recommend it BTW).

[kemuri07]

Confidence is key...but it's not about walking in a room with your chest puffed out. People like that tend to be those with very low confidence and feel like they need to over compensate for that.


Basically its understanding that shit's not that serious. Maybe it'll lead to something, maybe it won't. But it doesn't matter. It's more about making social connections and just talking to someone. You also need situational awareness: knowing when and where is a good time to do something. That's why I don't recommend walking around grocery stores or malls trying to get a date. You might be thinking what you're doing is innocent and naive, but I guarantee that most people think you're being kinda creepy.

I mean we have so many different resources available that there's really no reason for any one to be doing stuff like that.

[kemuri07]

Both Trans Men and Trans Woman have been victims of rape and murder because they are trans. I can see why Julie does feel worried about meeting up with CIS Straight Men. Brandon Teena is one of the most well known people that has been killed for being a trans male and has their story adapted into Boys Don't Cry (I recommend it BTW).

Also pretty much all of my women friends have told me stories that range from creepy dudes following them to outright assaults. There's a reason why plenty of women are terrified of random men just coming up to them and hitting on them--because they don't know if this is going to be a situation they can walk away from.

To homeboy: You're not entitled to getting people's benefit of the doubt.