How can i meet a woman who likes anime / cosplay / Dragon Ball?

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Re: How can i meet a woman who likes anime / cosplay / Dragon Ball?

Post by JulieYBM » Sat Feb 05, 2022 2:34 pm

mute_proxy wrote: Sat Feb 05, 2022 1:26 pmI think if you stopped pointing out your gender of choosing in almost every comment you post, be it related to the topic or not, he'd be more considerate.
lulz no way. I kept that shit bottled up for nearly three decades to make men who wouldn't care about my own happiness in the first place happy. Now I'm going to focus on my happiness as much as humanly possible, which means Being Annoyingly and Unapologetically A Girl.

Also, the whole girl thing kinda comes in handy when, y'know, gender is the entire point of the topic at hand. Or gender being a certified approach to criticizing art, which is what we're all in-part here to do.

I'm literally doing nothing but using life experiences and common sense to write these posts but still being written off as #TooSensitive because a few men (?) don't like lukewarm criticism and alternatives that are considerate of peoples' feelings.
MetaMoss wrote: Sat Feb 05, 2022 2:02 pmWhile I'll certainly agree that Peach will have a much better chance of finding what they're looking for in a social context where interacting with strangers is expected, I don't think it should be considered an issue if they choose to try using other avenues, as well.

All the things you and your friends must have gone through for you to have come to this conclusion is some shit that I doubt I could even begin to comprehend, and it is not my intention or desire to downplay that. I just want to convey that this world is full of people who are ready and willing to accept you for who you are and give you the respect you need and deserve, so don't let the shitheels get you down too much.
I've been trying to say this for several posts now but let me try once more in the most plain, perhaps abrasive language possible: you're not a mind reader. Nobody is a mind reader. One can't just assume they've found the one girl who doesn't mind being hit on at the mall or whatever. This is why designated areas for that sort of thing exist, whether online or not. One can actively avoid being a drag on a stranger's life by placing them into the uncomfortable position of being hit on unexpectedly by a man by simply not hitting on them as they buy their coffee and instead going to a place where people who want to engage in fliriting/whathaveyou are intentionally going to be. It is inconsiderate of people's feelings and their experiences. This is not a controversial concept.
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Re: How can i meet a woman who likes anime / cosplay / Dragon Ball?

Post by goku the krump dancer » Sat Feb 05, 2022 2:44 pm

JulieYBM wrote: Sat Feb 05, 2022 12:04 pm Projecting? You're the one assuming that it's okay to try to approach random strangers at the grocery store with little consideration that perhaps they might neither want to be approached nor consideration that you might make them uncomfortable because they have health issues and/or trauma. All when you can just...go to a designated space?
Go to a designated space where people could potentially have those same issues? You dont know if someone is sufferings from anything unless you go talk to them be it throughout the night life or daytime activities. I dont understand why things have to operate in these wild extremes. Making a fun relaxed conversation about how provolone cheese sucks with a stranger and then asking them if they're open to a date sometime in the future hardly constitutes as unfair pressure or whatever. Its the same online, you dont message someone saying "Dayum lets fuck" ( well that may work for some) usually you start the conversation in a fun relaxed way.

I dont even wanna come off like i'm some pro pick-up artist or anything, I don't think i've said anything ground breaking and while yes I'm more naturally on the extroverted side, I still have introverted tendencies, I get in my head for extended periods and I definitely enjoy my alone time at home or even just doing shit alone. I've gone to hangout spaces alone on a multitude of occasions
JulieYBM wrote: Sat Feb 05, 2022 1:19 pm By the way, I can see how you've been calling me 'YBM' and never using pronouns for me to avoid gendering me correctly. Just thought I'd point that out for the rest of the forum.
I've literally only called you Yuugi's Black Magician twice, which is still part of your User Name here so I don't see how that's any different than saying Julie especially considering I've referred to you as the latter any other time we've had a conversation and have never gone outta my way to disrespect you. Its no different than folks calling VegettoEX "Mike" despite not really knowing the guy from a can of paint. Nice attempt at trying to Sic the forum on me though.

Also I've been more than considerate of how the opposite gender might feel about the different ways of being approached, I have life experiences too, I have platonic lady friends as well, we talk about this stuff fairly frequently. I've been cat called and approached by gay men in the past and while it made me a little uncomfortable ( because I have no interest in dudes) I didnt go so far as to write off anyone from coming to talk to me in they feel so inclined, that's how most people operate.
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Re: How can i meet a woman who likes anime / cosplay / Dragon Ball?

Post by Cure Dragon 255 » Sat Feb 05, 2022 2:46 pm

Why not just call her Julie all the way through then surely...

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Re: How can i meet a woman who likes anime / cosplay / Dragon Ball?

Post by goku the krump dancer » Sat Feb 05, 2022 2:55 pm

Nothing wrong with switching it up every now and then but if she prefers Julie over anything else I'll respect it. Some people refer to me as just Krump others write out my whole name ( as dumb as it is) either one works for me though.
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Re: How can i meet a woman who likes anime / cosplay / Dragon Ball?

Post by Kid Buu » Sat Feb 05, 2022 4:31 pm

The way I saw it, if someone asked me for something randomly in a random enviornment, and they go away after I say no, then that is fair game. If they keep asking though, then that is when they crossed the boundary.
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Re: How can i meet a woman who likes anime / cosplay / Dragon Ball?

Post by VegettoEX » Sat Feb 05, 2022 4:35 pm

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