Nagyzöld wrote: ↑Sat Jan 29, 2022 6:38 pmFrom my experience - college, workplaces, friend groups etc. How do you think people met before dating apps?goku the krump dancer wrote: ↑Sat Jan 29, 2022 2:52 pm How do y'all think people met prior to the explosion of chat rooms, social media and dating apps?
So this is for you and Nagyzold, putting arranged marriages aside since those usually only happen within tight knit cultures and religious groups all those other situations require you to talk to someone you don't know. If you have crush on girl you don't have class with how do you expect to get to know her? You muster the courage to introduce yourself and start a conversation and you know what? she could reject you and say "Oh I don't come to school to get hit on", funny thing about that rejection line is that you could substitute "School" for any other place or platform ( Malls, Grocery Stores, Nightclubs, college cafeteria's, Tinder, Bumble, Instagram, a friend's barbeque, Comic Con etc) and it'll still apply. So Knowing that, how can you dictate what's an appropriate place or what isn't? You can't, because its all person dependent which is why you just have to wing it and take a chance if she says no cool, if she says yes great now you have date for Saturday night but again its not about LOOKING FOR DATES IN A PARTICULAR SPACE its about MEETING PEOPLE BY HAPPENSTANCE. I don't know why you guys are getting that part confused.WittyUsername wrote: ↑Sat Jan 29, 2022 4:23 pmArranged marriages, high school romances, stuff like that I assume.goku the krump dancer wrote: ↑Sat Jan 29, 2022 1:59 pm How do y'all think people met prior to the explosion of chat rooms, social media and dating apps?
Yes This, I agree %100.Dragon Ball Ireland wrote: ↑Sat Jan 29, 2022 5:56 pm I think what everyone needs to succeed in dating can be summed up with one word - confidence. That confidence can be built in any number of ways. As someone that used to go to the club frequently I can say that while I didn't meet potential dates or my now wife there they did help me become more confident when meeting people out and about, including people I found attractive, and that's what I would recommend anyone to go to them for. Also, if you go clubbing go with the intention of enjoying yourself, everything else will fall into place when you've built up courage.
The more confidence you have the less you worry about someone having similar interests because you are content with who you are and what you have to offer in a relationship. I'm not saying anyone should stop caring about a potential partner liking Dragon Ball, but it's important to accept it may or may not happen, and if it doesn't that's ok.
Plenty of couples have different interests but it still works for them. I would say great relationships should ideally have a healthy balance of shared and unique interests, because its good for two people to have been exposed to different things so they can learn from one another, as having all the same interests can be detrimental too (albeit not in all cases) by preventing both partners from becoming more open minded.
I cant tell if you're being sarcastic or not but do you just not talk to people outside of game chats and message boards? I could've swore this was basic information. Kid Boo already confirmed it but if you need further evidence just go talk your freakin Neighbor, its not that hard I promise.kemuri07 wrote: ↑Sat Jan 29, 2022 5:03 pmbars and clubs? Again, no one is saying that you cant talk to people its just that if your main concern is to date, then there are better avenues to do so than following women in grocery stores.goku the krump dancer wrote: ↑Sat Jan 29, 2022 1:59 pm How do y'all think people met prior to the explosion of chat rooms, social media and dating apps?
gonna need a citation on that.If you talk to any regular person in real life they'll tell you that bars and nightclubs are the worst places to look for a potential significant other because most people who frequent those places are there for a good time not a long time.
As much as I hate to run the victim Olympics and compare Boogeymen because everyone has their own struggles, trans people aren't the only ones who get victimized. I live here in Philadelphia and just last year alone in 2021 there were over 500 murders within the city with some 70-80% being black men, So I have a far larger chance of getting a bullet in my chest than any Transperson does of getting raped or murdered yet I dont walk around outside thinking everyone is out to get me, that's no way to live a healthy life. Even with the Chappelle fiasco from a few months back its not like straight men across the country hopped in there jeeps and burned down there local Gayborhoods, there was some social media uproar and that was it. Plenty of LGBTQ folk walk around here with their heads held high.Hellspawn28 wrote: ↑Sun Jan 30, 2022 2:49 amBoth Trans Men and Trans Woman have been victims of rape and murder because they are trans. I can see why Julie does feel worried about meeting up with CIS Straight Men. Brandon Teena is one of the most well known people that has been killed for being a trans male and has their story adapted into Boys Don't Cry (I recommend it BTW).goku the krump dancer wrote: ↑Fri Jan 28, 2022 4:38 pm
On another note I'm almost curious as to how some of you function day to day with all this fear jammed into your heads, YBM you almost speak as if every non-LGBTQ guy out there has some innate urge to hurt you, or people like you in particular and that just plain crazy.
I highlighted the last part because everything you said before that is literally everything I've been saying this ENTIRE TIME so I wonder if you've been misconstruing what I've said thus far on purpose or what but that last part is a projection if I've ever seen one, how can you just assume that women at large believe that being approached in public is creepy? How can say that but say its not that serious at the same time? If its not that serious then you cant say people come off creepy by doing cold approach. If YOU aren't comfortable doing it, cool but that doesn't speak for everyone else, there're plenty of women who dont use dating apps or social media for dating and actually prefer a guy to approach in person, wanna know why homeboy? Because DUN DUN DUUUUUN people can creeps online as well, Shocker I know, you can can literally come off like a creep anywhere online or offline again for the billionth time its ALL IN YOUR APPROACH.kemuri07 wrote: ↑Sun Jan 30, 2022 2:59 pm Confidence is key...but it's not about walking in a room with your chest puffed out. People like that tend to be those with very low confidence and feel like they need to over compensate for that.
Basically its understanding that shit's not that serious. Maybe it'll lead to something, maybe it won't. But it doesn't matter. It's more about making social connections and just talking to someone. You also need situational awareness: knowing when and where is a good time to do something. That's why I don't recommend walking around grocery stores or malls trying to get a date. You might be thinking what you're doing is innocent and naive, but I guarantee that most people think you're being kinda creepy.
I mean we have so many different resources available that there's really no reason for any one to be doing stuff like that.
I never said anything about puffing your chest out, walking around holding your nuts or feeling entitled to anyone's benefit of the doubt so I'm not sure where that came from, regardless its called TAKING A CHANCE, regardless of where you approach someone online or offline some will assume the worst and others wont like I said before its all person dependent. If someone has a panic attack because I said "hey, how's it going" then thats on them not me. We all have horror stories about some rando coming to talk to us, no one is special in that regard.
Lastly, I know you thought you were being cool but dont call me "Home Boy", I dont know you, you don't know me, we barely converse on here, we're forum mates at best and thats it. You're not entitled to my benefit of the doubt so I can assume in your smugness you really wanted to call me a nigga but opted not to so you settled for the PC Homeboy, but I wont go there, just dont call me that again.
I honestly don't know if I can make myself more clear than I already have so if you disagree and think approaching a person in public is creepy or whatever fine, but that's your personal preference and doesn't speak for everyone else.