ABED wrote:Assuming that people that do that are out to spend their time in healthy and constructive ways.
I won't bore anyone with any of the details whatsoever, but without going into unnecessary detail, I have like actual serious real life problems to be concerned with. If anyone here had even an iota of a sense of what my day to day has been like for years now, it'd be pretty difficult to come away with the impression that I have time and mental energy enough to pop onto tight-knit online communities solely to fuck with them for the sport of it.
And even if I didn't have any real life problems to deal with, I STILL wouldn't just randomly fuck with people in any serious way, because by my very core nature I'm not a troll.
ABED wrote:But it wasn't funny. I can laugh at funny things. I don't automatically assume bad intent, but if I read enough that reads as something negative, then I would reasonably assume negativity.
So we have very different senses of humor apparently. I thought it was funny, but then I'm also the kind of guy who laughs at jokes about serial killers, dead babies, and so on. I've got a sick, dark, twisted, morbid sense of humor. Based on what I know of this crowd over the years however, I'm probably all alone on that island here.
Doctor. wrote:I did not, at any point, seem offended by your comments (I assume you're targetting your post most more towards ABED, but since you also named me, I'm going to reply anyway). I merely responded to your points and expressed my confusion as to why you think the way you do. Slightly vulgar language and a crude way of approaching the topic isn't going to leave me offended. It's going to leave me wanting you to elaborate, because you clearly have a point you want to get across, a point full of hyperbole that you're trying to disguise as a joke, but a point nonetheless.
I'm not trying to "disguise" jack shit. I'm generally a pretty blunt, direct person (in case you couldn't tell). I don't do sneaky, subtle, or passive aggressive. If I've got a problem with someone, they'll generally be the first to know in the most non-uncertain terms possible.
The "joke" in question that ABED and I are referring to is the whole "check into a rehab clinic" post however many pages back that got ABED's panties in a knot. Was it a jab aimed at people who can't seem to get enough DB content? Yes of course it was. Obviously, as I've made my thoughts on that notion plenty clear over the last however many months. But it was indeed as a FRIENDLY jab, intended with no hint of mean spiritedness or malice, as I in NO way take ANY of this shit in this community anywhere near THAT seriously. I genuinely thought that some people would get a chuckle or two out of it and find the way it was set up/worded to be at least kinda clever-ish. Again, with the punchline being about "checking into a rehab clinic" yes I'm unapologetic about the fact that I use off color humor (that isn't even all THAT off color by most internet standards). But again, I didn't think it would lead to anything that APPROACHES this level of absurd monocle-popping.
The fact that I've had to explain myself to this ridiculous of a degree at this point is kind of a sad indictment about how STUPIDLY over serious some people here take these discussions and topics and possibly even themselves. Relax. You'll live longer. No one's trying to secretly troll you and make you feel bad over a dumb children's cartoon or insidiously "disguise" their intentions inside of a joke that offended you. Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar and the foul mouthed chucklefuck making rehab jokes is really just a foul mouthed chucklefuck making rehab jokes cause he finds it amusing.
ABED wrote:Whether you think you aren't writing that way is pretty irrelevant. People's perceptions of you matter. You keep insisting that it's clear and obvious, but that's not the case. I've seen several instances where people have been rubbed the wrong way by the tone of your posts.
Here's the thing: I mostly remember much of those instances coming mainly from
you. Maybe a couple other random people once in a very great while here or there, but at least SOME degree of friction like that is normal and tends to happen from time to time on any given forum. But in your particular case its much more consistent, and in many more cases than is usual it seems that you are the one who very often keeps getting into these weird "tiffs" with me. I (much to even my own surprise at times) tend to get along just fine with the vast majority of the people I directly interact with on this site. I've made numerous real life friends on here actually.
You however seem hell bent on assuming bad faith and reading into my posts all sorts of completely ludicrous notions. For instance;
ABED wrote:I simply felt you were talking down to people because they haven't had the experiences you've had. For example, because they don't have the background of having read or watched wuxia.
What...? Where...? Why...? Come again?
But yeah here it is. Here is the source of where all these needless drama stemmed from. I posted a bunch of normal shit about whatever, including one MILDLY off-color joke, and you basically interpreted it as this completely made up "attack" which NO normal, sane individual would take it as. Essentially I was just engaging in discussion here no different from how I normally do, and something in your mind twisted it and set you off into "You trying to say you're better than me? That what you're trying to say? You ain't no better than me! You're no better than me!" hyper defense mode.
Every word of this "Talking down to people for not having your experiences" nonsense that you just wrote about how you interpreted the nature of my posts isn't just wrong, its pulled
completely from thin fucking air. This is straight up textbook "putting words into my mouth". Which is my BIGGEST all time personal pet peeve that sets me off.
You being in SUCH a defensive mental posture by default in this kind of (fairly light) discussion...
this is not how normal people think and interpret the intentions of others from out the gate. I simply write my opinion often on whatever aspect of a given topic, and tend to keep things very broad and generalized, because I have less than zero interest in starting some internet "beef" with anyone over something as stupid as that which might come from a discussion about Dragon Ball.
Most normal people read it and might agree or disagree with the view, and move on. You're the one though who keeps trying to "personalize" things, who keeps insisting on "re-interpreting" and "translating" and looking for the "hidden meaning" behind my words. I'll be blunt: its like you're going out of your way to pick some kind of an online fight with me.
I'm asking you right now, in the nicest, most courteous possible way that I can: stop it. Please. If something about what I say in a given thread, whether its the "tone" or specific working of my post, rubs you the wrong way, here's an idea: instead of looking to "translate" what it is I'm saying about the topic as being not about the topic but about some nefarious insult I'm aiming at you or whomever else on here, maybe try to realize that when you find yourself nitpicking THAT deeply at somebody else's post, maybe the problem instead is with you.
Plus, and I'm sorry to disappoint you here, but I'm only going to continue right on swearing and using harsh language and unpleasant sounding words. Fuckshitcuntcockcumasspussydonaldtrump. Its not going away from my posts, ever, so if that's a large part of my posts that bothers or upsets you, I highly advise you to just stop reading what I have to say and move along elsewhere.
Never will I EVER go out of my way to troll or insult directly anyone on this or any other forum. Its not my way. I'll insult PRODUCTS (like Super or Kai or the FUNimation dub) which are not people and should "offend" neither you nor absolutely anyone else. I'll at times maybe dig at certain TYPES of fans in a VERY broad context (NEVER at anyone personally), but ALL of us here have our issues and pet peeves within a massive fan community like this one. But I assure that with me its NEVER personal. I have NO wish to hurt someones feelings directly. If their feelings get hurt ANYWAY because I insulted something that they like, well then I'm sure as hell not going to apologize for that and their getting offended is entirely on them. This should all be bog-standard, totally uncontroversial outlooks to have on this stuff.
I'm now and always have been utterly uncompromising, and blunt as all hell in my views and how I express them. Not just online, but also in my real life. What you see here is what you get with me in ANY other circumstance. I don't do the "online vs IRL persona". There is no Kunzait_83 "persona". This is very much genuinely me and how I talk offline. So either get used to it or get lost.
Do you not notice ABED, that I've almost NEVER confronted YOU first over
anything? In all of these sporadic little "dust ups" that we've had over the last year, it always seems to be YOU who comes after ME because YOU don't seem to know how to understand or compute the words of a guy (myself) who's, without hopefully sounding like I'm kissing my own ass here, tends to be exceedingly articulate, grossly detailed, and straightforwardly up front and honest in my views and how I present them? Have you not ever stopped to consider that in this case, maybe the problem lies with YOU instead and your reading comprehension skills?
I don't know how much more plain I can POSSIBLY make my intentions at this point. Please, I don't wish to find myself having to do this with you ever again. Please just stop. Stop taking so obscenely personally everything you read from me that you feel the least bit uncomfortable with or whatever else have you. Its beyond tiresome and exhausting, and I refuse to do some kind of paranoid "will this offend ABED or anyone else?" tapdance with every post I ever make here from now on.
Get used to the cursing. Get used to the blunt "take no prisoners" appraisals of corporate products that I think are asinine or generalized fandom thoughts and behaviors that I think are silly and stupid. Neither is going the fuck away so long as I'm a poster here, cause this is just how I talk about things. If you insist on projecting these little "well this is what I think he REALLY meant" conspiracy theory-like interpretations onto my posts, please then do me a HUGE favor and keep it to yourself and just walk the fuck away from it. Because I guarantee you that whatever nonsense you cooked up in your head there is probably bullshit.